Perhaps the most egregious dating lie is the idea there is some kind of system of appropriateness for when you should call someone, and that when you choose to break this seal is in any way indicative of how you feel about someone.In fact, we buy into this idea so much that it can't possibly be trusted, because even the guys that don't give a shit about anyone are clued in to the fact that to look sincere you have to wait a couple of days before calling, so the recipient of the call can have no idea whether this guy is genuine or not. Doing it face-to-face will only be more traumatic for you both. Dragging someone all the way to a bar and then ditching them, or calling at their house and doing it in their own kitchen is borderline sociopathic and I'd challenge anyone who says otherwise – so basically every other dating "expert" on Earth.Plus, you’re giving them a brilliant story to tell their mates.
I have nothing against one-night stands - if you want to have one, great! When I was a single, a lot of people used to say infuriating things like, "You're not trying hard enough! There's nothing wrong with trying to meet someone and putting yourself out there - that's great! Source: Shutter Stock Basically: "You should learn to settle." Don't settle. Of course you aren't going to meet the knight in shining armor who is perfect in every way. But that doesn't mean you should settle for someone who is just "okay" for now just to be in a relationship. If you're worried this person will think you're a dickhead for calling too soon, then 1) they sound a bit dim so maybe you shouldn’t call at all and 2) try to make a joke or gesture of it. Doing it in person when you’ve not been together long prolongs the agony and makes or more of a drama than it needs to be."I could've waited three days to call but it's a stupid rule and I really like you." If they don't go for this perfectly charming response then f**k them, frankly. Also: pathologically despising someone is the best way to get over them, and let’s just say they won’t be your biggest fan once that text alert pings.Your friends have probably already stalked him on Facebook anyway, so let them meet your new guy IRL before you get in too deep."If you trust your friends' judgment, their first impressions can be valuable," says Julienne Derichs, a licensed counselor. But when it comes to talking about dating and crushes and kisses, things get a little skewed.