If you’ve been keeping it casual, haven’t said the L word, and haven’t organised any romantic gestures, it’d be a bit weird to suddenly make a huge effort for Valentine’s Day.
If you’re unsure as to whether or not you’re celebrating Valentine’s Day, but don’t want to risk upsetting the person you’re dating by giving them nothing, just pick up something small and simple.
‘If you’ve fallen for one another in a big way and you both know it, then you might love the opportunity to spend a day celebrating your new-found love,’ Selina told us.
‘But if you’re taking it slow and seeing how things go, then you might want to give a light-hearted nod towards Valentine’s Day – a jokingly cheesy card or a chocolate heart.’ Essentially, if you and the person you’re dating have been super mushy and romantic from the get-go, you’ll probably want to do something for Valentine’s Day.
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This night is not about your burgeoning relationship.
When he broke up with me the next day, I pointed out that maybe he should have pulled the plug before I gave him a Christmas present, not to mention a hand-job. Still, my pathological reluctance to drop money at my beloved JCrew when they’re offering a whopping thirty percent off an obviously perfect gift is probably not normal.
And when you’re not quite coupled up but not quite single, when you’re dating, or you’ve just met someone new, the looming presence of Valentine’s Day is absolute torture. Is it appropriate to buy stuff with hearts on if you haven’t said ‘I love you’ yet? What if they’re expecting a gift from you and you’ve done nothing? The answer to stress, we reckon, is an agreed upon set of rules. Dating expert Charly Lester told uk that her rule of thumb is that if you weren’t together at Christmas – or didn’t do presents at Christmas time – then you shouldn’t expect to celebrate Valentine’s Day. Firstly, because if you’ve dated from Christmas to Valentine’s Day, you’ve been at dating for at least a month and a half.
Rules you can refer back to in case you and the person you’re kind of, sort of seeing have a mismatch in Valentine’s Day expectations and actions. Any less time than that, and you’re probably rushing into V Day romance too quickly.
If he or she mentions their upcoming birthday in passing, you should casually ask: "Fun, how are you planning to celebrate?
" The best case scenario is that they say something like "Oh, probably just doing X with my friends," which makes it clear that you won't be really expected to join in or participate—which is fine.