Invalidation is emotionally upsetting for anyone, but particularly hurtful for someone who is emotionally sensitive.Invalidation disrupts relationships and creates emotional distance.He found that when one's feelings are denied a person can be made to feel crazy even they are perfectly mentally healthy. Further, emotion inhibition significantly predicted psychological distress, including depression and anxiety symptoms.) Invalidation goes beyond mere rejection by implying not only that our feelings are disapproved of, but that we are fundamentally abnormal. Sometimes it feels as though as a parent life is so overwhelming and there is too much for one person to do.This implies that there is something wrong with us because we aren't like everyone else; we are strange; we are different; we are weird. The more different from the mass norm a person is, for example, more intelligent or more sensitive, the more he is likely to be invalidated. During those times I have to focus on one thing at a time, ask for help if I can, try to do it well, and accept some things just wont happen as ideally as Id like. Conversely, invalidation is one of the most damaging forms of emotional abuse.
Your partner avoiding the "work" in the relationship is like wanting to have his cake and eat it, too.
It could because they don't agree with them or they're uncomfortable dealing with them.
Invalidating your emotions means your partner doesn't have to address them.
Invalidation, as used in psychology, is a term most associated with Dialectical Behavior Therapy and Marsha Linehan.
As I described in my post on the family dynamics of borderline personality disorder, “Invalidating someone else is not merely disagreeing with something that the other person said.