It soon progressed to name-calling, insults, unfounded accusations, degradation, humiliation, and isolation.The first step in domestic violence is to charm the victim; the second is to isolate the victim. I began believing I deserved the abuse, and thought everybody else believed I was who he said I was.This article is the final part of our four-part series on teen and young-adult relationship violence, sexual assault and stalking, which often overlap in unhealthy relationships.To read our first installment on stalking, click here.It was easier to stay and suffer in private than to try to leave and be humiliated in public.I was stuck in a psychological trap and didn't know where to turn, nobody could help me. Nobody knew I had been punched so hard I was almost knocked out.
The 24-hour service is available at at 1-866-331-9474, or by texting "loveis" to 22522.The hell became so familiar that it was easier to stay rather than leave.It was easier to live with the shame and guilt in secrecy.JACKSON, MI – Even after he dragged her by the hair, leaving her scalp swollen and starting to bruise, she talked to him.Even after he threw her down and punched, chocked and kicked her, creating abrasions all over her body and “severe scratching” around her sternum and neck, she willingly met him for a final, secret get-together before he went to jail.One winter day during my junior year, I found out that he had cheated on me again. He became enraged as I walked away to my class but he didn't follow me. In that moment, I had two choices: I could either sit there and continue to be belittled in front of everyone because he wasn't going to leave, and nobody else was going to say or do anything, or I could walk out and be shamed anyway because I had given into his threats. As we walked down the hall, he spit in my face, pulled my necklace off my neck, threw it in the trashcan and he threw me up against the lockers. Mine is a story of emotional, psychological, and physical abuse.