Those kids graduate and pretty much continue to have the same dating woes — only now with fewer single people around living in the same building and sharing meals with them every day. Take piano, violin, tennis, swimming and Tibetan throat-singing lessons. Be ‘well-rounded.’ Well, you’re a talented little bugger. At the same time, there’s an opportunity cost associated with achievement.
So if they had challenges then, it gets about 1000 times worse once they’re expelled from the warm womb of alma mater. On the other hand, it makes screw it up (or a computer). Time spent studying, doing homework, and practicing the violin is time not spent doing other things — like chasing boys or girls, which turns out is fairly instrumental in making you a well-rounded human.
Rarely do you hear these words uttered in the same breath: an ordered, balanced universe of dating? Does dating have to be yet another anxiety-provoking addition to your already packed schedule? It’s true that dating is typically fraught with expectations, projections, and overzealous romantic hopes.
But are your stressed-out reactions to typical dating situations helpful or effective? Chances are, too, that your responses to challenging dating situations follow a pattern.
He’s a certified clinical Hypnotherapist and has consulted with fortune 100 companies. I mean she’s just an amazing, amazing woman, she’s was smart, she’s sweet, she’s beautiful, she’s kind, and, you know, she just wasn’t being treated right.
He writes for huffingtonpost.com, and he maintains his own hypnotherapy practice in the L. So that was kind of the motivation that got me to finish the book.
Generally, the H-bomb, when it’s dropped, tends to change the interaction in some way. If somebody disqualifies himself from the outset based on that, he probably wasn’t going to be a good choice in the first place. I always say, Cambridge: surly people, inedible food, crappy weather, best year of my life. FM: What is the most rewarding aspect of helping people with relationships?
D., a Master of Philosophy, and a certification in clinical hypnotherapy.
But Alex Benzer ’93, author of “The Tao of Dating for Men” and “The Tao of Dating for Women”, just wants to help you find “the middle path.” FM chatted with Benzer about dating, dropping the H-bomb, and picking up the phone for Mom mid-makeout. Fifteen Minutes: What compelled you to write your books and articles about dating?
He’s also the author of The Tao of Dating: The Thinking Man’s Enlightened Guide to Success With Women. So that was kind of the first step, and that got me moving to write the book, but it didn’t get me to finish the book.
He holds a Bachelor’s degree from Harvard, and he’s got an MD degree from the University of California at San Diego School of Medicine, and also I notice a Master’s of Philosophy from Cambridge University. What got me to finish the book was actually a dinner I had with two of my old classmates from college, and we sat down and we were eating and one of them, they’d both been divorced, one of them was dating a guy, and this guy that she was dating, it, you know, she was supporting him, he was a starving artist type, and at the same time he was kind of being emotionally abusive, so it didn’t make a lot of sense to me. ” And later on it came to light that he was actually beating her up, and that just absolutely broke my heart, and I thought, you know, if the, if this book can help one amazing woman like this friend of mine, kind of gather up her power again and really go after what she wants and what makes her happy, ‘cause she deserves the best…