What ends up happening is he becomes dependent on her to be his emotional crutch.Instead of getting stronger, he gets weaker and more attached to this girl.When you’re dating a commitment-phobe, it can seem very hopeless and difficult to fix…but the key is spotting the signs and weighing them against your absolute needs in a relationship.He took me on some amazing dates and made love to me in ways I never even thought possible! My best bet is that he will sabotage this relationship fairly soon and it will be over. Commitment-phobes, tend to choose jobs that allow for a lot of flexibility to travel, not work in an office and control their own schedules.
Women who wish to have a family often have stricter timetables for finding a suitable mate, and realizing you’re dating a commitment-phobe who may be ready to settle down can be more than frightening.
Why do I feel needy and desperate when I talk to him all of a sudden? I’ve never met a man who spent so much time and energy trying to win me over. But when I suggested we have dinner with my parents, I didn’t hear from him for a week! He has no intention of making a commitment to her, and now that she is asking for a little more, he’s finding reasons to back away. He travels for work and is gone for a week or more at a time.
He practically lives with me and I’ve never even seen his place! I love you, baby, but I really like things the way they are now. '” His own negative self-beliefs about commitment, love and relationships will guarantee that this relationship won’t last.
So months or years go by and the girl just figures (even after all this time) that if she just loves him enough, he’ll be strong enough to love her back.
At this point, she’s in deep too – she’s invested so much into a relationship that she hopes will someday happen, but has yet to ever make its debut into reality.